I wouldn’t. They’re already so deep into idealization; they won’t believe a word you say. I didn’t want to know who the new person was – and the amazing people around me continue to make certain my request is respected. However, some of my friends quickly discovered who she was and reached out. She apparently […]Continue Reading
Answers to Your Q's
- Should I Warn the New Victim?
- Ex-Narc Wasn’t Violent. S/he Preferred to Take Time Apart to Cool Off. Aren’t Narcs Usually Violent?
- Ex-Narc Was Active in Their Church and Charitable Causes. So S/He Must Be Able to Care About Other People?
- The Narc Was So Attentive and Generous. Seeing Me Happy Made Them Happy. Maybe They Truly Cared About Me?
- Ex-Narc Was Concerned About My Well-Being and Worked On Resolving Problems. Doesn’t That Mean They Cared About Our Relationship?
- The Ex Looks So Happy in the New Relationship. Maybe the Narc Change for the Better?
- There Was a Very Real Connection Between Us. It Couldn’t Have Been an Illusion!
Narcissists don’t like being called out on their faults… nor can they tolerate “brokenness” (resulting from narc abuse) from their intimate other(s). Not all narcissists are physically violent and many of them choose to simply walk away and completely forget about it, instead of throwing a fit and exhausting themselves. During the “time apart” you […]Continue Reading
They’re known as altruistic narcissists. They extract supply from the admiration they receive from people who witness their activities. What the ex-narc in my life cared most about was announcing his great deeds on Facebook and watching how many likes and comments he got from his thousands of followers. “Always an inspiration!” Yeah, whatever… These […]Continue Reading
This takes place in the idealization/love-bombing stage which can last from a few weeks to several years. They get their narcissistic supply when you admire and appreciate their generosity. The narc doesn’t think, “I want to make them happy because they’re so special to me”… the sad reality is, “I do these things so they […]Continue Reading
Narcissists are master manipulators. There are narcs who will sit through long discussions to gain information on how to “calm you down” or make you believe the problem is resolved. Many survivors report that after “resolving” an argument and appearing as though they feel sorry for hurting you, they will continue to repeat those same […]Continue Reading
It is IMPOSSIBLE for someone to feel genuine love, adoration, affection, and deep bond with another person… then IMMEDIATELY feel those same exact things for someone else. The “love” a narc has for someone is totally and completely superficial. They just want the coffee… and if they find someplace more convenient and with less hassle, […]Continue Reading
I felt that too… and I completely understand and empathize with you. The deep, soul-connecting bond that convinced you without a doubt, this HAS TO be your person or no one at all. When connections like that are made between two healthy people, then yes, an emotional bond most likely has been established… this is […]Continue Reading