This takes place in the idealization/love-bombing stage which can last from a few weeks to several years. They get their narcissistic supply when you admire and appreciate their generosity. The narc doesn’t think, “I want to make them happy because they’re so special to me”… the sad reality is, “I do these things so they […]Continue Reading
Narcissistic Abuse is Insidious...
The perfect version of your dream come true love story with your best friend and soul mate quietly and violently mutates into the most frightening horror story where you find yourself alone, confused, desperate, and totally depleted.
Most survivors report they weren't aware they were even in an abusive relationship, nor did they know what narcissistic abuse was prior to being ripped through the shredder.
The aftermath leaves you in absolute disbelief - feeling confused, abandoned, invalidated, and virtually unable to function. Family and friends who were sympathetic at first grow frustrated by your inability to just "move on"... and regardless of how horribly you were devalued and discarded, you find yourself obsessing over, as well as longing for validation and acceptance from the one who mentally, emotionally, and perhaps even physically ABUSED you.
Breaking up with a narcissist requires more healing than from a breakup between healthy individuals. However, there is a process you can follow to effectively get your head and heart on the same page, reclaim your mental and emotional strength, and begin moving beyond the cycle of abuse... and you can start right now.
Narcissists are master manipulators. There are narcs who will sit through long discussions to gain information on how to “calm you down” or make you believe the problem is resolved. Many survivors report that after “resolving” an argument and appearing as though they feel sorry for hurting you, they will continue to repeat those same […]Continue Reading
It is IMPOSSIBLE for someone to feel genuine love, adoration, affection, and deep bond with another person… then IMMEDIATELY feel those same exact things for someone else. The “love” a narc has for someone is totally and completely superficial. They just want the coffee… and if they find someplace more convenient and with less hassle, […]Continue Reading
I felt that too… and I completely understand and empathize with you. The deep, soul-connecting bond that convinced you without a doubt, this HAS TO be your person or no one at all. When connections like that are made between two healthy people, then yes, an emotional bond most likely has been established… this is […]Continue Reading
It’s absolutely soul-breaking when you see your “replacement” get everything the narc promised you but never followed through with. Throughout your relationship, you did everything in your power to work through the bumps, constantly forgave their shoddy behavior, gave them all the love and understanding you could possibly give another person… believing in your heart that […]Continue Reading
?It’s mind-boggling, to say the least. I was so sure the narc was “with me” 100%, but he clearly wasn’t. Breakups between two healthy people usually have a “recovery” period regardless of how the split took place. However, narcs are not capable of emotionally bonding like we do… so there was nothing for them to […]Continue Reading
It will feel like a taste of heaven at first, because despite all of the self-work and healing you’ve done, regardless of how far you’ve come since the discard; your deepest, most private prayers and wishes of love have been answered. It’s been such a long time since you felt like this… so complete, accepted, […]Continue Reading