After the idealization stage, the narcissist begins to notice your “flaws” and blames you for no longer living up to his unrealistic image of the “relationship.” The non-stop love and admiration is replaced with on/off, hot-and-cold behavior. This is also the stage when the narcissist begins searching for your replacement. THE MASK STARTED CRACKING… […]Continue Reading
Narcissistic abuse is insidious...
Most survivors say they didn't recognize they were in an abusive relationship, nor did they know what narcissistic abuse even was prior to being ripped through the shredder.
The perfect version of your dream come true love story with your best friend and soulmate quietly and violently mutates into the most frighteningly confusing, lonely, and painful horror story in which you are no longer able to recognize yourself.
The aftermath leaves you feeling confused, abandoned, invalidated, and unable to function... surrounded by family and friends who can't understand why you won't "just move on"... and regardless of how horribly you were devalued and discarded, you still find yourself longing for and obsessing over the one who mentally, emotionally, and perhaps even physically ABUSED you.
Breaking up with a narcissist requires more healing than from a breakup between healthy individuals. The cycle of narcissistic abuse unfolds in such a way that the victim who was at first brimming with personality, happiness, and a zest for life when first entering into the relationship is replaced with a mere shadow of that person who suffers from cognitive dissonance, C-PTSD, and dangerously addicted to their abuser by the time the relationship has ended. Not only are you grieving the devastating loss of a relationship, but you must also learn to understand and accept that the relationship was FAKE.
However, there is a process you can follow to effectively get your head and heart on the same page, reclaim your mental and emotional strength, and begin piecing your life back together. Download my Free Guide below to take the first powerful steps in the right direction today.
The intoxicating stage where targets are constantly showered with declaration of love and affection. You feel completely supported, understood, loved, & admired in ways no one else ever made you feel. You’ve finally found your soulmate and forever love. I’ve learned this stage is commonly referred to as the “love bombing” stage because the narc will […]Continue Reading