• NPD 101
    • You Are NOT Crazy. This Really Happened.
    • What is Narcissistic Personality Disorder? Is There a Cure?
    • 7 Answers I Desperately Needed After the Discard
    • Abuse Symptoms
    • Who is Your Narc?
    • NPD Glossary of Terms
    • ** Red Flags
  • Cycle of Abuse
    • Stage 1: Idealization
    • Stage 2: Devaluation
    • Stage 3: Discard
    • Stage 4: Hoovering
    • ** Toxic Patterns
  • Toxicity Assessment
  • 1:1 Coaching
  • Podcast
  • Pocket Coaching
  • Members
  • Menu
  • Skip to right header navigation
  • Skip to primary navigation
  • Skip to secondary navigation
  • Skip to main content
  • Skip to primary sidebar
  • Skip to secondary sidebar
  • Skip to footer

Carmen Sakurai, Trauma-Informed Life Coach

Carmen Sakurai | Narcissistic Abuse Recovery | Break Free from Toxic Relationships

  • NPD 101
    • You Are NOT Crazy. This Really Happened.
    • What is Narcissistic Personality Disorder? Is There a Cure?
    • 7 Answers I Desperately Needed After the Discard
    • Abuse Symptoms
    • Who is Your Narc?
    • NPD Glossary of Terms
    • ** Red Flags
  • Cycle of Abuse
    • Stage 1: Idealization
    • Stage 2: Devaluation
    • Stage 3: Discard
    • Stage 4: Hoovering
    • ** Toxic Patterns
  • Toxicity Assessment
  • 1:1 Coaching
  • Podcast
  • Pocket Coaching
  • Members
  • Home
  • About
  • FAQ
  • Contact
📍 Home / Articles / Narc Speak: Empty Words of Love

Narc Speak: Empty Words of Love

“S/he was so loving and affectionate, I was quickly swept me off my feet!” “Our connection was so intense, it felt like we were the only two people in this world.” “S/he always made me feel safe and totally accepted.” “How can someone lie through their teeth like that?“

Believe me, I GET you! The love-bombing stage was so intense for me, I was absolutely convinced beyond a doubt that the ex-narc and I had a totally unique bond known to no other. These sentiments were all expressed to me at the very beginning of our relationship that at times I felt cornered and overwhelmed.

Unbeknownst to me, he (along with pretty much all narcissists) regurgitates these same “confessions of deep love” for all victims… recognize any?

  • I love you so much. I love everything about you
  • I love you completely. I love who you REALLY are deep inside
  • I’ve never loved anyone like this before
  • I have never been loved like this ever
  • I finally know what true love is about
  • You are the only one who can truly love me
  • No one can ever make me as happy as you do
  • I’ve never been this happy in my life
    Actual text sent from the NPD ex. He’s quite dreamy. Did you date him too?
  • Your love saved my soul
  • You’ve completely changed my life
  • I am so excited about our future together
  • I’m so crazy about you
  • I’m all yours forever
  • You are mine forever
  • I will protect you til I die
  • I will die for you
  • I would take a bullet for you
  • I will crawl through glass to protect you
  • I will give up my business if I need to, to support yours
  • I have no doubts about us
  • There are no words to describe how I feel about you
  • You are my saving angel
  • There is no one who is more perfect for me than you
  • I only want you. No one can ever compare
  • Now I know what all those love songs are about
  • Those love poems finally mean something to me
  • We were meant to change the world together
  • I’m so lucky that someone like you sees something special in me
  • Of all the people in this world, I choose you every day
  • I may not be the smartest guy/girl but I know how special you are and I will never mess this up

Do any (or all) of these sound familiar? Apparently, narcissists share a list of words and phrases they use during the idealization and hoovering stages. Sadly, they’re all empty words with no substance… and they all mean just one thing:

I’m over-the-moon excited about all the narcissistic supply (status, financial stability, sex, ego stroking, live-in babysitter, housekeeper, convenient companionship, admiration from onlookers, etc.) I expect to take from you!

No matter what they do or say, the fact remains: The narcissist’s ONLY motivation is getting their supply to validate and regulate their self-esteem because they are unable to see past their own needs.

 

Category: Articles, Red Flags, Toxic Patterns

< ! > If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741.If your issue is an emergency, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.

The posts on this website are designed to provide accurate information with regard to the subject matter covered. It is distributed with the understanding that the author is not engaged in rendering medical, legal, accounting, psychological, or other professional advice. If expert assistance is required, the services of a competent professional should be sought.

Previous Post: « The Narcissistic Mother – One of the Most Frightening of All Personalities
Next Post: Silent Treatment: How to Respond to It »

Primary Sidebar

Free Pocket Coaching

NPD research notes, narcissistic abuse first-hand experiences, and Q&As for discussion & validation.

Hi… I’m Carmen.


Proud single momma, certified trauma-informed master life coach specializing in toxic relationship + npd abuse recovery, advocate for victims of narcissistic abuse, and survivor… keep readin’

Switch On Your Power

NPD Abuse Recovery Podcast

itunes episode discussions

Secondary Sidebar

Recommended Books:

Categories

  • Abuse Symptoms
  • Articles
  • Book Summaries
  • Boundaries
  • Breakup Recovery
  • Codependency
  • NPD 101
  • Personal Development
  • Red Flags
  • Toxic Patterns
  • Who is Your Narc?

Footer

Navigate

  • Home
  • About
  • FAQ
  • Contact

Let’s Connect!

Facebook
LinkedIn
YouTube
Instagram

Search For…

Free Pocket Coaching…

NPD research notes, narcissistic abuse first-hand experiences, and Q&As for discussion & validation in-between podcast episodes. Get Mine!
  • Home
  • About
  • FAQ
  • Contact

Site Footer

carmenasakurai

BS PSY, Certified CBT/DBT Coach 🙋🏻‍♀️ Mom 🧁 Wannabe Foodie 🧠 Certified Trauma-Informed Life Coach ❤️‍🩹 Narcissistic Abuse / Toxic Relationships

carmenasakurai
You do not need anyone’s permission to accept an You do not need anyone’s permission to accept and validate yourself. We have ALL been given the gift of LIFE. Each person is responsible for nurturing and protecting their precious gift... and each person has been granted the privilege and the freedom to design and enjoy THEIR OWN gift to the fullest! 🎁❤️ #youareenough
.
💟 @carmenasakurai 
.
.
.
.
.
#narcissisticabuse #narcissist #narcissism #narcissisticrelationship #narcopath #narcissistfree #youmatter #boundaries #sociopath #emotionalabuse #psychologicalabuse #hiddenabuse #selflove #selfworth #survivor #yousurvived #mentalhealth #healing #verbalabuse #stopabuse #healyourheart #loveyourself #youarebeautiful #knowyourworth
stop tolerating sh*tty behavior & treatment. you d stop tolerating sh*tty behavior & treatment. you deserve better than that. 
💕 carmen 
#loveyourself #selfworth #selflove #selfesteem #mindfulness #quoteoftheday #emotionalfitness #positivevibes #personalgrowth #inspireme #wellness #goodintentions #mentalhealth #quote #quotes #instadaily #motivation #liveyourlife #liveyourdreams #beyourbest #powerfulmind #positiveenergy
I guess I’ll give this account another shot... 🥰😘  
  
Sooo... hai... I’m Carmen 🙋🏻‍♀️  I cannot for the life of me take photos with a straight face. 🥴
  
  
  
  
#mom #mother #momlife #mommylife #boymom #motherhood #igmoms #japanesegirl #kawaiigirl #pinaymom #pinaygirl #ig_motherhood #moms #instamoms #singlemom #mama #lasvegas #vegas
Can’t argue with scientific studies! 😂 ⠀
.⠀⠀
.⠀⠀⠀
.⠀⠀⠀
.⠀⠀⠀
#funny #lol #fun #instagood #lmao #smile #cute #comedy #happy #life #haha #humor #hilarious #laugh #funnypictures #kitchenhumor #memes #meme #funnymemes #dailymemes #memesdaily #funnymemesdaily #lmao #relatablememes #carmensakurai #ninjamombits
Eeeew... “sticky day” selfie with my sweet #pr Eeeew... “sticky day” selfie with my sweet #premed 🥴
.
.
.
.
#children #child #vegas #lasvegad #childrenof_instagram #kid #kids #childrens #family #myfamily #instagram_kids #mykid #mykids #ignation #beautiful #cute #mylife #niños #littleman #cheeky #myboy #myfirstborn #onlychild #favoritechild #ninjamombits #singlemom #momlife #boymom #vegas #lasvegas


© 2023 Carmen Sakurai | Privacy & Cookies | Disclosure | Disclaimer
Running on Genesis | Hosting by KnownHost

We use cookies to ensure you receive the best experience on our site. By using this site we will assume you accept our terms. I Accept!
Privacy & Cookies Policy

Privacy Overview

This website uses cookies to improve your experience while you navigate through the website. Out of these, the cookies that are categorized as necessary are stored on your browser as they are essential for the working of basic functionalities of the website. We also use third-party cookies that help us analyze and understand how you use this website. These cookies will be stored in your browser only with your consent. You also have the option to opt-out of these cookies. But opting out of some of these cookies may affect your browsing experience.
Necessary
Always Enabled
Necessary cookies are absolutely essential for the website to function properly. This category only includes cookies that ensures basic functionalities and security features of the website. These cookies do not store any personal information.
Non-necessary
Any cookies that may not be particularly necessary for the website to function and is used specifically to collect user personal data via analytics, ads, other embedded contents are termed as non-necessary cookies. It is mandatory to procure user consent prior to running these cookies on your website.
SAVE & ACCEPT

Girlfriend's Guide to Holding Your Own

Weekly check-ins where I bring you tips, exercises, and FYIs you can you immediately to step into your week as your best!






Download Your Choose You Episode 9 Worksheet