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April 13, 2022 //  by Carmen Sakurai//  Leave a Comment

This comprehensive assessment will help you understand how unhealthy behaviors of those around you affect how you see yourself, interpret your experiences, and how you step into your life.

Answer each question as honestly as you can for the most accurate results. There are 90 "Yes" and "No" questions. Please answer all questions until you are finished.

When you're finished, you will receive your Toxicity Impact Score and its explanation and suggestions for your next steps.

Your information and answers are kept in strict confidence.

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1. 
Do you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around certain people in your life?

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Have you taken responsibility for someone else’s bad behavior?

3. 
Does anyone in your life deliberately provoke you to feel jealous, angry, sad, etc., then get mad at you for feeling that way?

4. 
Have you accepted the consequences for something you didn't do?

5. 
Are you constantly being negatively compared to others by someone in your life?

6. 
When you react to a hurtful comment, have you been told you’re too sensitive?

7. 
Have your relationships with close friends and family changed for the worse or dissolved altogether?

8. 
Do you avoid talking about your relationship with people who truly care about you?

9. 
Do you find yourself making excuses for the actions and behaviors of others?

10. 
Are you afraid to be alone with anyone in your life?

11. 
Does anyone repetitively call you hurtful/insulting names?

12. 
Is there someone in your life who makes you feel like everything is a competition?

13. 
Do you feel like you are someone’s possession instead of a friend or loved one?

14. 
Have you had a goal that you've let someone talk you out of?

15. 
Is there someone in your life who persistently lies to you?

16. 
Do you ever feel like you're in trouble, like a child who misbehaved?

17. 
Is there someone who tries to interfere with even in the smallest parts of your life?

18. 
Do you feel anxious when you do things others may not approve of?

19. 
Does anyone in your life demand your unearned respect?

20. 
Have you had to set boundaries with someone to keep yourself safe?

21. 
Is there someone in your life who seems to never apologize?

22. 
Is there someone in your life who constantly tells you what’s wrong with you?

23. 
Has something happened in the past to make you fear certain people in your life?

24. 
Do you find yourself trying to be someone you’re not in order to please someone else?

25. 
Have you ever been forced to do/participate in something you didn’t want to?

26. 
Have you ever covered up or lied for someone who treats you badly?

27. 
Is there anyone who makes you feel a knot in your stomach when they're around?

28. 
Is there someone you're afraid to make mad or upset?

29. 
Do you find yourself forced to compete over insignificant issues?

30. 
Do you feel guilty when you do something for yourself?

31. 
Does anyone intentionally embarrass you in front of others?

32. 
Have you tried to remove yourself from a relationship, only to be convinced back with more lies and broken promises?

33. 
Have you ever been absolutely sure about something that was said or done, and have someone try to convince you that you're wrong?

34. 
Have you ever had to fix up a mess made by someone else?

35. 
Have you ever been “given” your opinion?

36. 
Have you ever had to defend doing/buying something nice for yourself to another adult?

37. 
Has anyone blatantly brushed off a rule, guideline, or boundary you've communicated with them?

38. 
Have you ever received an insincere apology from someone you thought you were close to?

39. 
Have you been criticized for things you don't agree with?

40. 
Are you constantly on guard and ready to avoid conflict?

41. 
Are there people in your life who seem to take pleasure in testing you?

42. 
Do you find yourself apologizing for things that aren’t yours to apologize for?

43. 
Are there people in your life that criticize you beyond what you deserve?

44. 
Do you often feel that something bad is about to happen?

45. 
Are you uncomfortable standing up for yourself?

46. 
Do you often suspect you're someone’s consolation prize?

47. 
Does someone in your life take credit for something you’ve accomplished?

48. 
Have you ever felt degraded by someone else’s words?

49. 
Have you felt like stories from someone didn’t add up?

50. 
Is there anyone in your life who makes you feel like all your ideas are bad?

51. 
Have you accepted a lie to keep yourself from going crazy?

52. 
Has someone told your friends and family lies about you?

53. 
Are you in “trouble” so often that you just expect it now?

54. 
Has someone taken even the most insignificant decisions out of your hands?

55. 
Are you reprimanded by anyone if you do something or go somewhere without consulting them?

56. 
Have you been forced to change or eliminate a boundary because it wasn't being respected anyway?

57. 
Have you ever given up on getting an apology?

58. 
Is there someone in your life who hurts you emotionally/physically, then blame you for "making them" do it?

59. 
Have you been forced to isolate yourself from close family & friends in order to save a relationship with someone outside that circle?

60. 
Do you wonder if you really are too sensitive or emotional?

61. 
Have you given up on making your own decisions to avoid conflict?

62. 
Have you wanted to do something, only to have someone else forbid you from doing it?

63. 
Have you been blamed for someone else’s temper or outburst?

64. 
Have you had to re-establish boundaries with someone who has crossed them

65. 
Do you feel like you have to be different people, depending on who you are with?

66. 
Would other people recognize that you are fearful of someone close to you?

67. 
Have you changed who you are to be like someone that someone else likes better?

68. 
Have you felt ridiculed for your lack of ability?

69. 
Have you ever been made to feel guilty for being liked, successful, or admired?

70. 
Have you ever convinced yourself that insults about you may be true?

71. 
Have you felt like you know someone well but are continually surprised with new, unexpected information about them?

72. 
Have you reduced the size of your dream in order to accommodate others’ opinions?

73. 
Have you had to confront the same person more than once about lying to you?

74. 
Do you feel that you’ve lost your support system?

75. 
Are there people in your life that treat you badly but deny doing so?

76. 
Have you ever hidden personal items so they would be safe?

77. 
Do you avoid speaking up or taking action to avoid friction or confrontation?

78. 
Are you bothered by other people's insulting comments?

79. 
Have you stopped doing something you love because someone told you that you had to?

80. 
Have the bad events in another’s life been blamed on you?

81. 
Do you sense jealousy coming from someone in your life?

82. 
Have you heard the same insult so often, that you are numb to it?

83. 
Has there ever been someone in your life you feel doesn’t want you to succeed?

84. 
Have you been deeply hurt by lies told by others?

85. 
Have you had to quit doing something you love in order to avoid conflict?

86. 
Does someone in your life make you feel like you're always falling short? Even when you do just as they asked?

87. 
Do you doubt yourself even when you logically KNOW you're right?

88. 
Do you base your self-worth on what you can do for others?

89. 
Do you believe people won't leave you as long as they need you?

90. 
Do you find yourself saying "Yes" when you really mean "No"?

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