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The 7 Answers I Desperately Needed After the Narcissistic Discard

By Carmen Sakurai

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Because sometimes it helps to quiet your immediate concerns before moving on to the next steps.

The Narcissistic Cycle of Abuse

Idealize. Devalue. Discard. Hoover.

It quietly pulls you through a perfect version of your dream come true love story… and you suddenly wake up to the coldest, most confusing, and excruciatingly painful nightmare where you no longer recognize yourself.

When I was first trying to wrap my head around my sudden and unexpected breakup in October 2017 (I documented the entire thing here, believe it or not), the majority of the articles and guides I found for NPD abuse recovery instructed me to:

  1. Set and enforce healthy boundaries
  2. Do No Contact
  3. Identify and heal any childhood emotional injuries to stop attracting and maintaining relationships with toxic people
  4. Deprive the ex of any attention and focus on my recovery

Yes, they’re all sound advice, but as a living and breathing human being whose entire world  was just shattered into unrecognizable pieces, my most pressing concerns were…

 

 

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