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Carmen Sakurai, Life Strategist

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Be DONE with the Heartbreaks!

Ghosted? Can’t get over your ex? Confused about your relationship? Tired of attracting emotionally unavailable men?

I’ll be your strongest ally as you take back your sanity & heal your heart… to help you finally realize YOU are the PRIZE.
 
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Stop tolerating toxic manipulators & time-wasters just to see… “how things might go.”


I’m a Certified Life Strategist with a BSc Psychology, Certified Practitioner of several psychotherapy methods including Cognitive Behavioral Coaching, and over 20 years of education, training, and experiences in mental & behavioral health.

But my qualifications are only relevant because I’ve been in your shoes, many, many times…

Until I finally had enough and found solid ways to correct the thoughts and behaviors that kept me in that cycle of emotional misery.

I’ll help you heal and move past your breakup, increase your self-worth, create strong boundaries, and live-forward in alignment with your authentic self. All in a safe space without judgement.

So if you’re ready to kick your addiction to your ex and take back your happiness, I’m your girl.


Regardless of which side of the breakup you were on, ending a serious relationship is never easy. You are left walking around with a gaping hole in your heart and a head full of obsessions. You feel lonely, numb, empty, and your heart is completely weighed down from pain and confusion. This loss can even feel like death itself.

And there’s only so many times you can turn to your family and friends about this before they understandably grow exhausted by your sadness, anger, and repetitive stories.

As the reality of the breakup sets in, you’re left to deal with your thoughts and emotions… struggling to process the excruciating grief and quiet the obsessive thinking. Whoever said “time heals all wounds” was certainly not referring to your situation.

You desperately want to move on but because you’re a caring and feeling human being, you cannot simply “turn off” the feelings just because the relationship is over – even if the decision was yours.

Is This You?

  • You can’t stop thinking about your ex
  • Regardless of how badly you were treated, you recall only the “good times”
  • You find excuses to contact them when you know you shouldn’t
  • You have difficulty setting boundaries with your ex
  • Your family and friends constantly insist you should just “let it go” and you feel like there’s something wrong with you because you can’t
  • You have children together and have difficulty making healthy decisions
  • Your self esteem has been shattered
  • Your ex cheated and you wonder if you’ll ever trust again
  • You stalk them on social media
  • You have friends in common and afraid to socialize
  • You feel like you need “closure”
  • You fantasize about whether it could still work
  • You have difficulty focusing on work or school.
  • Your thoughts are filled with your ex that you are unable to function effectively

Recovering from a breakup is very similar to recovering from an addiction. And just as addicts must break their dependence on toxic substances, people who are trying to heal from a breakup must break free from their unhealthy dependence on another person.

I’ll help you work through the pain and confusion without judgment. The objective is not to “get your ex back” but to “get yourself back”. After all, this is the time to focus on and nurture the person who needs you most – YOU.

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Ideas to wipe out possible obstacles


Carmen is an amazing coach. She helped me create a realistic plan of action that includes ideas to wipe out possible obstacles as well as consistent support and accountability.

Isabella

Carmen Sakurai, Life Strategist
2020-01-28T12:22:04-08:00

Isabella

Carmen is an amazing coach. She helped me create a realistic plan of action that includes ideas to wipe out possible obstacles as well as consistent support and accountability.
https://carmensakurai.com/testimonials/ideas-to-wipe-out-possible-obstacles/

I’m so grateful to have found you as a resource.


Had I possessed the words, I could have written nearly every detail of this article about my own incredibly stressful experience. I’m so grateful to have found you as a resource.

Mimi, Survivor

Carmen Sakurai, Life Strategist
2020-01-28T13:00:50-08:00

Mimi, Survivor

Had I possessed the words, I could have written nearly every detail of this article about my own incredibly stressful experience. I’m so grateful to have found you as a resource.
https://carmensakurai.com/testimonials/im-so-grateful-to-have-found-you-as-a-resource/

Delivers on all fronts


Coach Carmen delivers on all fronts. Not only does she have a great personality that’s both encouraging and supportive, but she’s very flexible in her methods so that, regardless of your shortcomings, you are able to achieve your goals.

Joshua

Carmen Sakurai, Life Strategist
2020-01-28T12:17:22-08:00

Joshua

Coach Carmen delivers on all fronts. Not only does she have a great personality that’s both encouraging and supportive, but she’s very flexible in her methods so that, regardless of your shortcomings, you are able to achieve your goals.
https://carmensakurai.com/testimonials/joshua/

12 Months No Contact


12 months NC. The SOS sanity cards and chats are what got me through. Thank you, Carmen!

Fiona, New Zealand

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2020-01-28T14:53:27-08:00

Fiona, New Zealand

12 months NC. The SOS sanity cards and chats are what got me through. Thank you, Carmen!
https://carmensakurai.com/testimonials/12-months-no-contact/

Thank you for giving me the strength to choose my well-being.


Thank you for giving me the strength to choose my well-being over someone who brushed me off as trash. 2 Years NC and healing!

Marisol, Jacksonville, FL

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2020-01-28T14:55:17-08:00

Marisol, Jacksonville, FL

Thank you for giving me the strength to choose my well-being over someone who brushed me off as trash. 2 Years NC and healing!
https://carmensakurai.com/testimonials/thank-you-for-giving-me-the-strength-to-choose-my-well-being/

Thank you so much for being the loudest voice I’ve heard so far


At last, someone has written about this in which, I consider a brutal and honest style. I’m so very grateful that this subject is getting out there, that these nasty, pervasive women are being exposed. They do lifetime lasting damage. Thank you so much for being the loudest voice I’ve heard so far.

Kim, Survivor

Carmen Sakurai, Life Strategist
2020-01-28T12:55:38-08:00

Kim, Survivor

At last, someone has written about this in which, I consider a brutal and honest style. I’m so very grateful that this subject is getting out there, that these nasty, pervasive women are being exposed. They do lifetime lasting damage. Thank you so much for being the loudest voice I’ve heard so far.
https://carmensakurai.com/testimonials/the-loudest-voice-ive-heard-so-far/
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When You’re Drawn to the Emotionally Unavailable

Don’t Chase People

5 Ways to Give Your Ex More Power Over Your Mind

When I Go No Contact, It’s Final

15 Signs of Weak Boundaries and 4 Hints to Help Identify If They’re Being Violated

18 Characteristics of Codependents and 9 Truths to Support Recovery

8 Steps to Setting Healthy Boundaries

18 Signs You Lack Boundaries and 7 Tips to Help You Create Them

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